FERNE ASHBY MORAN

I was born November 18, 1907, which means that I am 97. My, the changes I have seen in my 97 years! I have lost a lot of people in my lifetime- I am the only one of my immediate family still living. Mother and Dad are gone and my nine brothers and sisters. In regard to telling my story, there is an advantage because, if I make a mistake, no one will be able to contradict me.

My father was Oliver Ashby, and my mother, Irena Adams Ashby. I think they were married in 1889. My dad and mother were raised in the neighborhood where they lived when I was born, in Osceola Township of Clarke County, Iowa. They had eight children ahead of me, all born at home, and we moved from farm to farm, all in close proximity. The farm where I was born was 1 ½ miles from where I was raised. In 1909 my dad built a big new house, which is still standing directly across the road from the airport, and over the course of years, he built all the buildings on that farm- the barn, chicken house, machine shed, outhouse, and all. I think that place at one time belonged to his father and mother.

My brothers and sisters were: Opal who married Earl Paul, Minnie who married Raymond Hertz, Stella who married Floyd Newman, Charlie Ashby, Hazel who married Clarence Clifton, Marie who married Harold Moran, Cecile who married Alvin Marquis, Kenneth Ashby married Wilma Grissmore. Then I came along. They had originally spelled my name Feryn, but I changed it. I married Lowell Moran. Victor Ashby was the youngest. There were 18 months between Victor and me, and we were very close. We played a lot of games together.

Isn't it interesting the things we remember and those we forget? There was a neighbor girl, Mildred Mongar, and one day she, Victor, and I were playing in the snow. Victor fell in a big snow drift and couldn't get out, and I couldn't get him out. I had to go for help.

He and I also got in trouble because both of us wanted bangs. One night we got the scissors and cut ourselves some bangs. I don't recall our punishment for that. The only time I ever got a whipping from our dad, was when Victor and I were teasing our brother, Kenneth. Dad told us to stop, and we didn't stop. He told us to go out to the cherry tree and get a couple branches. He took my branch and whipped me, and he took Victor's branch and whipped him. We never got another whipping. When my dad said something, from then on we did it!

Our mother was a wonderful seamstress and a wonderful mother. I don't know how she ever had 10 kids and got along with them like she did. Everyone had their job and they gave me the job of following a turkey hen to find where her nest was.  I told Mother and she would get the eggs and put them under chicken hens. There was no incubator. She raised those turkeys, sold them, and bought a table that 12 of us could sit at. That was wonderful.

Mother thought since I did such a good job, I should have a new dress. She had me go to town with her and choose the material. I chose a pretty red and when we went home she put me on the table and measured me. She made the dress, and made it quite large so I could wear it the next year as well. She also bought some plaid material, and when the dress needed to be altered she put the plaid material wherever it was needed - the waist, the skirt, or sleeves. I don't know how many years I had that dress, but it was the only dress I had, because I had to wear my sisters' hand-me-downs.

I went to country school to a teacher named Adams. My birthday being in November, I started to school when I was four. The teacher wrote numbers one to ten on the blackboard, and said, "You make these just like I did." There was no way I could do that, so she spanked me and said, "You go home and don't come back to school until you are five." I stayed home until I was five, but I had some good teachers. One of them was Vera Glass. She was a wonderful teacher!

We went to East Chapel Church about a mile from where we lived. I suppose I started going to Sunday school when I was about five. We would go in Dad's horse drawn carriage. Grandma Morrison was my teacher and then Miss Finkbone, who moved away to Minnesota. My sister, Minnie, was going with Raymond. He had no brothers or sisters. He would take me home from Sunday school, and bring me home when he came to see Minnie. He called me his little sister. I was even with them when they were married in 1921. He died in January the next year with T.B. and I missed him terribly. When I was in high school I went to the Christian Church, and joined in 1923 at a revival meeting. After I moved to Osceola I went to other church meetings and worked in the church kitchen.

In the wintertime, when I was a child, we went places in the sleigh. It was a wagon box with runners. Our father would put straw in the bottom, mother would cover us with blankets, heat irons she used to iron clothes, and put them under the blankets with us. This is the way we would go to visit our relatives. I don't know what the older kids were doing but this was the five of the younger bunch - Marie, Cecile, Ferne, Kenneth, and Victor. It was a wagon full. My mother's relations had cousins about our age, and going to see them was so much fun!

It would be hard for young people now to imagine how our life was, particularly without a car, but Dad didn't buy one until the 1920s, and even then he wouldn't learn to drive it. My brother and I learned when we were older.

I graduated from rural school, went to high school in Osceola, and graduated in 1925. I planned to go to college, but my dad died in August, so I couldn't go. It was a good thing I stayed home because my mother got sick with urinary trouble, and my brother Charlie had pneumonia. That year Mother and I also helped Hazel and Happy Clifton when Hazel was pregnant with Mary. We kept their son, Keith, and Little Keith only lived until he was five. In January 1926, he died from an infection in his leg that they think was cancer.

The next year two years I taught in the Groveland rural school - the school years of 1926-'27, and 1927-'28. During that time, I was taking college classes on Saturdays. We didn't have options of transportation. I came by train in the morning, and usually could find a ride home. There was a day when there were only two of us on the train - a man who worked for Millers and myself. The conductor got off to put the flag down and the train started up before he could get back on. We didn't know what to do. Neither of us had ridden the train enough to know what we should do. I saw a cord and said, "I don't know what it will do, but I'm going to pull this." It was the right decision. They stopped the train, and the conductor got on. He had been able to get up on the step and hang on, but it was a freezing cold day and he said, "I don't know what would have happened if the train hadn't stopped. I was just about to give up. I thought I couldn't hang on any longer." He'd probably have died. That was a strange and terrible experience. He turned to me and said, ''Next time, you put the flag down."

I took summer classes for two years, then went to summer school at Iowa State Teachers' College in Cedar Falls. I graduated with a degree in 1929. I roomed with Edna Teller and she is still living - my oldest friend. She is one year older than I. She lives in a Marshalltown nursing home. I heard from her recently and she said she had written several letters which I hadn't answered. I didn't get them but I did write to her. I used to have a lady who wrote for me, and she isn't here any longer. There is another one who is supposed to do that, but I haven't asked her. I just wrote to Edna myself. I tried to call her on the phone but she couldn't hear me very well. I plan to go see her this summer if I am able. I went two years ago.

My first teaching job in town school was in Somers, south of Fort Dodge. I was there for one year then got a call from Charter Oak. I put my application in there and was hired. I was there for four years. It was about then the Depression hit, and things were so bad. One morning when I went to school the superintendent said to me, "The bank in Osceola closed." Two of my sisters and one brother worked there and even they didn't know it was going to close. They didn't get their money out, and I sent money home so they would have some. Dad had bought a piece of land he hadn't fully paid for. Minnie and I put up the money to finish paying for the land. I had borrowed money from Minnie to go to college and paid her back.

I don't want to dwell on how bad it was. People who didn't live through it probably couldn't understand anyway. There were some who couldn't cope with it.  While I was in Charter Oak, the father of one of my students come to the door and looked through the glass. I went to the door to ask if he wanted to come in and he said he just wanted to see his children. He went to the park and hung himself. Another father of one of the children killed himself in front of the train. Those were sad years.

While I was there, I was struck with acute arthritis. Knots formed on my joints and I had severe back pain. I went to local doctors, one in Denison, who sent me to Sioux City. I came back to Osceola and saw Dr. Lauser. As is often the case, the source of the problem was somewhere other than the obvious. He x-rayed my teeth and found I had infected wisdom teeth. When I went to a dentist and had them pulled, my problem was taken care of. The basis for this was that as a child I had streptococcus infection, which was diagnosed as tonsillitis. I was sent to bed but they didn't have penicillin so there wasn't much more to do for it. I took sweat baths several times a day out in the sun, or with my grandmother's electric blanket. I recovered, but the bacteria stayed in my system without any evidence until I was 22 years old.

During the summer of 1927, I had the first of several experiences with lightning. My sister Cecile was married, and Mother was having a dinner for her. It rained and not many guests were able to come because we were still on the dirt road. We were washing the dishes - Opal was washing, Cecile and I were drying - when a terrible storm came up. The folks had a lot of shade trees west of the house. Lightning struck one tree near the house. It broke the window where the cream separator was; a ball of fire came in through the window, out through the pantry door, into the kitchen, across the floor, and out the open door. I happened to have a tin curler in my hair and was struck by the lightning. Cecile held me up. I don't know whether she knew I'd been hit, but I still have a lump on my head. I'd never seen anything like that before and hope I never do again.

I had another spell with lightning after I had come to Osceola in 1934, and taught second grade. Lowell and I had been married and were coming home from town when a storm came up.The garage was quite a way from the house. I got out of the car and remarked that I hoped there would be lightning so I could see to get to the house. Lowell got up on the step to unlock the door, and I hadn't quite gotten there. We had a wind charger; lightning struck the wind charger, and it hit me. I just stood there. I couldn't move. Lowell quickly grabbed me and got me into the house. It knocked out several things in the house even though we had lightning rods. Another time lightning came in and knocked out our telephone. We had stock killed by lightning- a hog, a cow, and a horse.

Lowell had grown up in the Hopeville area, and I met him when we both happened to be visiting my sister, Marie Moran. He asked me, "Would you like to take a ride with a young man?" I said, "Young man?" and he said "Sure." So I took a ride with him and that was the beginning. We were married in 1938. We had planned to get married a year earlier, but when the year rolled around, Lowell said he didn't have enough money to get married, so we would have to wait a year. During the year, I was at my mother's home when a man came to take orders for fruit trees, so I ordered raspberry plants, fruit trees, and grape vines. Lowell, his father, and a hired man set them out. That didn't work out too well because the next year we were married, and the day we were going to celebrate our honeymoon, the raspberries had to be picked.

I taught the neighborhood school, Doyle No. 5. I think I taught two terms there and finished a term for a teacher who got pregnant. Pregnant women weren't allowed to teach in those days so I filled in for her and got more money teaching her term than at any other place or time.

I totally accepted the role of farm wife. I helped Lowell raise hogs, I fed the pigs. We built a hog house that held about 20 sows. There was a place out in front of the building where we fed them. There was a fountain where they could drink their water. They knew exactly where to go. The sows knew where their stall was. Relatives visiting us from California were so surprised the hogs knew where to go. Pigs were weaned and sold. I raised a lot of chickens so we could have eggs for sale. We milked cows, separated the milk from the cream and sold the cream. Someone came from the creamery and picked up the cream. Someone else picked up the eggs.

Farming isn't the safest occupation and I had three bad scares. One was when I was hauling corn up the hill and one horse fell down. I didn't know what to do. I didn't know if the horse had broken a leg or what had happened. I didn't know if I should jump off the wagon or just sit there. I decided to sit there and pretty soon the horse got up and we went to the house. Another time was when I was harrowing the ground. Lowell told me to turn better at the ends of the rows. I turned too short. The harrow came up over the tractor wheel and blew out the tire. It made me sick. The other time I was shucking corn with the team. I shucked this small plot because it was by the fence, and there was a slough, so Lowell couldn't get in with the corn picker. He was using that machine and I said I could do the small plot. I was taking the load to the house, going up a hill, and the horses got scared and started to run away. I just hung on and they soon settled down.

I raised pigs and chickens and other people's children. We couldn't have any of our own. I intended to go to the doctor to see if there was something wrong with me, but he said, "You get Lowell in here first." Lowell refused because he knew what was wrong with him. He had mumps when he was in puberty, and they went down. It prevented him from fathering children.

Lowell and I had a wonderful life.  We enjoyed our home and one another. We did quite a lot of traveling. First we went to places of interest in Iowa, then to the mountains, then to the east coast and down south. We went to Europe on a hog tour, which included England, the Netherlands, France - wherever they raised hogs. We met lovely people, but particularly two ladies with whom we kept in touch for a long time. Other than flying over the ocean, I enjoyed it all.

We built a beautiful new house on the farm. We wanted a brick home, so Elias Mongar and my brother Charlie laid the bricks. We lived in the machine shed while it was being built. I wanted to keep my mother and Lowell's mother but they died before the house was finished.

We had wonderful neighbors. If anything happened, we all helped one another. I had that proven to me at a time I don't like to talk about. We had a cow about to give birth to a calf, and she was having some difficulty, so Lowell prepared to pull it. He wrapped a rope around his arm and the other end around the calf’s foot and tail. All of a sudden, the cow got up and dragged Lowell. I said a prayer and the cow stopped. We were out north of the hog house where it was hard for anyone to see us from the road, but a lady came from the south and turned west. We lived at the top of a hill on that road. I waved and waved at her. She stopped and asked what was the matter. I said, "Go for help! Quick!" So she did. The ambulance came and took Lowell to Des Moines. They operated on him but the doctor said there was no chance for him to live. I didn't think that was the right thing for him to tell me, even though he was right. Lowell died within a week. The year was 1971.

Then I had a job! Neighbors helped so much! People told me I could continue on the farm as well as anybody could, but I decided to sell. I had to take care of the hogs and everything we had, and sell the farm. My sister Minnie came to stay with me. While we were eating one day I had a heart attack. They thought it was because I was overworking but I realized later there was another reason. I have a heart that doesn't beat regularly. It skips beats. I have had three spells that I am aware of.

When I sold the house, I moved to Osceola. The man who appraised our land told me about the housing complex, West Ward Manor. I saw the apartments and they were indeed very nice, so I moved in. Before long, however, several members of the Board came to see me. One of them said, "This is the hardest thing I've ever had to do." They told me West Ward Manor was low income housing, and the only way I could live there would be to give away all my money. I wasn't going to do that, so they helped me move. I don't remember who it was but they were very thoughtful.

I moved to an apartment - I don't recall the address - just that it was on the north side of the street. I didn't care for it and tried unsuccessfully to buy a house, before I began to consider building. At that time Ron Ogan was selling Wick homes and he put up one for me. I liked him very much. He did everything for me. If I didn't like this or that, he would fix it for me. He came to my most recent birthday party. For a time I thought I would try Wesley Acres in Des Moines. I rented my home and moved, but discovered I missed Osceola and came back.

After Lowell passed away I continued to travel. I missed him so much on the first trips I took, I could hardly stand it. I had to make myself go. I went with people who arranged tours. I went with the Butterfields to northeast Iowa and Kentucky. Later I went to New Zealand.

Australia, Canada, Alaska, Hawaii, Mexico, and various countries in South America. A friend, Marie, loved to fly and when we were in Alaska she persuaded me to leave the group tour and fly with her to Nome. It was truly primitive but one thing I remember was a style show where they featured fur coats. The price was hundreds of dollars. We didn't buy one but later we heard that the price now is in the thousands.

Brazil was one of the South American countries we visited, but I don't remember which it was when one night our sleep was interrupted about 3:00 in the morning. They came and told us we had to leave. There was going to be trouble if we didn't. So we left that town and went on. Another time, in Europe, we saw a sign that said, "Go home, Americans." They tried to do something to the bus we were on but weren't successful. Those were the only two places we had any problems. In other places, they were glad to see us.

In 1990 I began to lose my eyesight. I lost it completely in my left eye. I went to a specialist in Des Moines who was highly recommended. "Isn't there anything I can do? Change my diet? Anything?" He said, ''No, you will always be blind in that eye." Throughout my life I have had various physical problems perhaps stemming from the arthritis I had in Charter Oak - it may be that it never completely left my body - or maybe even back to the streptococcus infection I had as a child. At any rate, at some time I became aware of Reflexology. I bought several books on the subject and believe it to be true that we have certain connecting points in our bodies. By pressing a point connected with the area that is giving the problem, we are helped. In this case, I went home and got out my Reflexology book. The point for eyes is the base of the first and second finger and the base of the first and second toe. The hands don't work as well as the feet but if you can't reach your feet, the hands will do. I began putting pressure at the base of my toe. There was a picture on our wall that had a blue butterfly. Every morning I would look at that picture and finally one morning I saw a blue streak, and it kept improving. I went back to the doctor six months later and I could read the top line of his chart! He was not impressed. He turned on his heel, walked out the door, and never said a word! In time I could see about as well in each eye.

One of the on-going pleasures I have is attending reunions, and particularly our Adams' reunions. My great grandfather was married three times, so he had three families and we have a lot of relatives. The first reunion was held at Millard Adams' home. We continued to have it in buildings until the group outgrew them and we had to have them in the park east of Osceola. Last fall we had it at Ron and Shirley Fouche's. Ron is a second cousin. I don't have any first cousins living. I am now into second cousins.

Over the years I have belonged to the Federated Women's Club and the Retired Teachers. I went until I got too old. I played a lot of bridge and taught a lot of people to play. I had a little folder that told everything you needed to know to play bridge.

I came to the nursing home in 2001. The transition began with a fall. I had been to the meal site for lunch and fell in front of the Lyric Theater. It happened that a lady saw me fall and came over to see if she could help me. She had a phone so I told her to call someone. They came with an ambulance and I was taken to Des Moines with a broken hip. When I came back they told me I would not be able to live alone. If I stayed in my home I would need 24-hour care. I sold the house on Cass Street, and my nieces and nephews disposed of most of my belongings.

Marvin Paul was a nephew. He was the oldest grandchild, and one of my favorites. He died of a heart attack. He was on a weed killing machine, it rolled backward down a hill and they found him in a ditch. His wife, Ann, is my niece by marriage. She is the one looking after me here. I told her, "I need somebody. If you want to do it, I'd like to have you. I want you to think about it." She immediately said, "I don't have to think about it. I'll do it." Paul Fullmer is another relative. His wife, Mary, was supposed to take care of my business if something happened to me. When she passed away I asked Paul if he would take her job and he said he would be glad to. I doubt if I could have found anyone who would be as good to me as the two of them. So maybe not everything in my life is exactly the way I would wish, but I am comfortable, I am well looked after, and have many things for which to be thankful.

A PRAYER FOR A SCHOOLROOM WALL

Dear Teacher of us all, we pray
Be with us in our room today.
And share our work and share our play.

Help us to learn, and sometimes when
The task is hardest, help us then
To say, "I will," and try like men.

Make us to hold our heads too high
To stoop to cheat and thus "get by."
Make us too brave to tell a lie.

And keep our thoughts as cleanly white
As if we had each one to write
Them on a blackboard in plain sight.

Give us great dreams to be and do.
Give us high hopes and courage, too;
Make us a little more like you. Amen.
 

OF MEN AND TREES
In every patch of timber you
Will always find a tree or two
That would have fallen long ago
Born down by wind or age or snow,

Had not another neighbor tree
Held out its arms in sympathy.
Shall trees be nobler to their l9nd
Than men, who boast the noble mind;
Shall there exist within the wood

This great eternal brotherhood
Of oak and pine, of hill and fen,
and not within the hearts of men?

God grant that men are like to these
And brothers brotherly as trees.

Author unknown.


 

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